Let’s face it, there are times when you’re living your life by default since it’s the go-to-choice you’ve relied on for so long. There’s a comfort in doing the same thing the way you always do it and then again, after a while it gets old. Maybe even so routine that you lose your enthusiasm for living life and doing your work. Not to mention, just feeling really, really bored. Or stressed out and tightly wound. Intensely doing and reacting by routine. Like being a hamster on a wheel and you can’t find a way off of it!
A powerful place to begin is to set your sights on becoming extraordinary. Sound like a tall order? Only if you are satisfied with the status quo of where your life is right now.
Is there room for growth in any area of your life?
What’s “less than perfect” that impacts you in your business?
Is your routine getting in the way of you not having the life you envision?
Does it seem way too hard to change it up?
Well, there’s a simple way to begin going beyond where you are right now. All you need is a little bit of awareness to get started.
Trust the process!
You may be a leader, an employee or part of a team. And although you may not view yourself as a “leader,” you really are. Yes, that’s right. You are a leader! Even if it seems as time like default.
What would a leader do to go beyond mindfulness and tip your entire life into a whole new way of being day-to-day?
Well one of the first things a leader would do is to ask better questions. Once you get really clear about your answers to the following questions, you’ll get better results. Here are four clarity-building questions to ask yourself:
- WHAT DO YOU WANT MORE OF IN YOUR LIFE? Maybe it’s about being more on-purpose, less reactive, less judgmental of others, more organized, less wasteful of time online, more appreciative, more happy…?
- WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO DO TO HAVE THAT? Some examples might be to have a system of time management and accountability, seeing each person as doing the best they can do with the resources and experiences they have or maybe some new daily practices.
- WHAT COULD GET IN YOUR WAY? Excuses, blaming others, judging quickly, not honoring your agreements, letting distractions get in your way or?
- HOW DO YOU HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE? You may want to really take a look at your inner voice. Do you have a strong inner critic taunting you or berating you? Are your beliefs preventing you from being truly extraordinary? Have you found the right match as a mentor or coach to shine the light on your full potential?
Are you wondering why asking these four questions may help you go beyond mindfulness to have more of what you really want in your life?
—the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something “their mindfulness of the wider cinematic tradition.”
—mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.
There’s a reason companies such as Google, Facebook, Apple and Intel have introduced Mindfulness within their organizations. Hard data shows a huge trove of positive benefits.
Here are some of the proven ways that mindfulness can benefit you:
- Reduces stress, anxiety and other negative spiraling emotions
- It actually shrinks the brain’s “fight or flight” center, the amygdala. This primal region of the brain, the initiation of the body’s response to stress., and potentially destructive emotions like fear, unhappiness and anger.
- Reduces depression (clinical trials are showing that mindfulness is as effective as medication with no side effects!).
- Reduces insomnia
- Increases your sense of well-being and increases energy both mentally and physically.
- Effective for pain management.
- Sharpens your memory, focus, attention and improves efficiency at work and at home
- Improves emotional and social intelligence and develops your empathy and compassion in your relationships
- Improves health and boosts immunity with beneficial effects shown on many serious illnesses such as cancer and heart disease and even in weight and fitness management long-term.
- Improves confidence and emotional resiliency
Mindfulness is the opposite of mindlessness.
It means waking up out of autopilot and ‘taking the steering wheel’ of your attention again. To take control and not become swept up by a never ending (and not always positive) current of thought processes. When you’re mindful you ‘wake up and step out of that current, placing attention where you choose.
You can go Beyond Mindfulness by:
- Being More On-Purpose by maintaining a moment-by-moment conscious and deliberate direction of your attention, thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations and the surrounding environment.
- Practice Non-Judgment by paying attention to your thoughts and feelings as if you’re an impartial witness – without a strong belief or taking them personally. Become more of a watcher. When you get the hang of it, you may even notice that reacting or saying less is more impactful for you and others. “Less is More!”
- Be Present in the Moment instead of letting your mind wander away to get caught up in replaying the past or projecting into the future. Left to your own devices, it’s easier to go somewhere else in your thoughts than in the present moment. When you can engage in the here and now, tension is released from wanting more and launches you more into acceptance of where you are right now. There’s also the added benefit of “less noise” going on in your thoughts. You may begin to make better choices in how you interact, react or respond in situations that are challenging. Becoming more of a watcher, in a “less is more” approach creates a lot more space inside you.
- Pay Attention to your Inner Dialogue and Feelings that come up for you. . This is especially valid to do when you slip up and make a mistake. Yes, you perhaps didn’t handle a situation as adeptly as you wanted to. In hindsight, you know you blew it big time. What is your inner dialogues saying to you? You may have several personalities talking to you at the same time. When you recognize them as all parts of you, you can begin to place attention where you need to in each moment instead of getting side-tracked by your “monkey mind” and emotions.
Of course, a good way to begin each day is to practice some form of mindfulness. I’m a big fan of Mindvalley founder, Vishen Lakhiani’s “6-Phase Meditation” since it’s an active meditation and takes less than 15-minutes. Here’s the link. When I miss doing it, my day seems to have a different quality of productivity, focus, happiness and calm. It’s the least I can do for imbuing positive shifts in my present and future life.
If you want to explore how you can ramp up your happiness, fulfillment and embark on living the lifestyle you desire, I’d be delighted to have a conversation with you. Please let me know how I can support you in having the life your envision by taking mindfulness to the next level for you. You can set up a call with me here.
Mindfulness turns out to also be the single most important determining factor in whether or not you will be happy and fulfilled in your life (once your survival needs are met).
In other words, the more mindful you are the happier you are.
Mindfulness can literally transform your entire world from the inside out!
Creating a new level of mindfulness and consciousness about your decisions will make a huge difference in how you’re balancing your work and the rest of your life.
Pay attention to your inner dialogue and feelings
It becomes easier to admit when you’ve messed up and just owning it. No more excuses. People respect that level of honesty and transparency. That’s how trust is developed; especially when you let others begin to see the “real you.” No posturing or pretending. Just being.
And yes, that’s a big relief to know that when you integrate going beyond mindfulness in your day-to-day work and life, things seem to align in beautiful and at times wondrous ways. There’s more ease and a lot more joy.